-Chronic stress or burnout
-Anxiety that shows up as tension rather than worry
-Feeling disrespected, unheard, or under pressure
-Difficulty expressing vulnerability or asking for support
-Long-standing habits of self-reliance
Understanding what sits beneath anger allows for more effective and lasting change.
Many men experience emotional distress in ways that don’t look like sadness or anxiety. Instead, it can show up as irritability, frustration, anger, or feeling constantly on edge. I work with adult men who want support managing strong emotions, understanding what’s driving them, and responding in ways that feel more aligned with who they want to be.
Seeking support isn’t about “fixing” yourself — it’s about gaining better control, clarity, and choice.
When emotions come out as anger or irritability
Anger is often a secondary emotion — a response that appears when something else feels overwhelming, threatening, or out of control.
Men may notice:
- A short fuse or quick frustration
- Feeling tense, restless, or constantly “wound up”
- Snapping at partners, children, or colleagues
- Bottling things up until they come out sideways
- Regret or shame after emotional outbursts
- Feeling misunderstood or judged for emotional reactions
These patterns are common, understandable, and changeable.
How therapy can help men
This may involve:
-Identifying triggers and early warning signs
-Learning practical strategies to manage escalation
-Developing language for emotions beyond anger
-Improving communication in relationships
-Reducing guilt, shame, or self-criticism linked to emotional reactions
The goal isn’t to eliminate anger, but to use it constructively and prevent it from causing harm — to yourself or others.
My Approach
Straightforward: No unnecessary jargon or over analysis
Collaborative: We work together to define useful goals
Evidence Based: Focuses on skills that work in the real world.
Non Judgemental: Anger, sadness, anxiety are explored not criticised.
Is therapy right for you?
ou might consider therapy if:
- Anger or irritability is affecting relationships or work
- You feel constantly tense or on edge
- You struggle to express emotions other than frustration
- You’re tired of reacting in ways you later regret
You don’t need a diagnosis, and you don’t need to wait until things escalate.
Therapy details
- Therapy is available for teens & adults
- Sessions are offered in person and via telehealth
- Appointments are confidential and paced to your needs
If you’re unsure what to talk about, that’s common — sessions are structured and guided.
Taking the next step
If anger, irritability, sadness, or anxiety is affecting your life or someone you care about and you’d like support, you’re welcome to get in touch to discuss whether therapy might be a good fit.
- Contact us to make a confidential enquiry
Frequently asked questions
No, you do not need a referral. You can make an appointment with a psychologist without a referral from your GP or a paediatrician/psychiatrist. If you decide to do this you will need to pay the full amount for your sessions out of your own pocket.
At CAYA Psychology, individual treatment sessions are 50 minutes. Assessment sessions may be longer.
You will need to make an appointment with your GP who will assess whether you are eligible for a Mental Health Treatment Plan. A Mental Health Treatment Plan will enable you to claim a Medicare rebate (rebates vary by type of referral).
Click here to find out more about Fees and Rebates.
To be able to claim the Medicare rebate for your session you will need to bring a copy of your Mental Health Treatment Plan to your first appointment with your psychologist.
Psychologists are health professionals who work in a range of areas including clinical, health, neuropsychology, sports, forensic, organisational and community settings. To become a fully registered psychologist you must undertake an undergraduate degree, an Honours degree and and at least two years of supervised training and further education in the field of psychology (either a Masters or Doctorate degree).
Psychologists assist people with everyday concerns such as stress and relationship difficulties, as well as mental health issues. Psychologists use “talk therapies” to help people to develop skills to cope with difficulties and to prevent on-going issues. There are a large number of research studies supporting the effectiveness of psychological therapy.
Psychiatrists have completed a medical degree and further training and study related to the diagnosis and treatment of mental illness. Psychiatrists specialise in the medical treatment of mental illness and can prescribe medication. Some psychiatrists combine medication with therapy.
The procedure for a first appointment varies from practice to practice, but here is an overview of how things tend to work at CAYA Psychology:
At the beginning of your first session your psychologist will briefly run through important paperwork with you. This will include checking the information you provided in your online-intake documentation (including any medical referrals and service agreements).
We will also discuss issues such as privacy, confidentiality (and limits to this), fees and other important information about sessions.
The remainder of the session is usually spent discussing the issues that have brought you into therapy. As well as developing a thorough understanding of your concerns, your psychologist will explore relevant background history, for example, information about your family, social relationships, work history and any past counselling that you have done. Based on this information we will begin to help you to understand more about what might be causing and maintaining your current issues. If time allows we will also work with you to develop a collaborative and flexible plan for future therapy sessions.
If you are bringing your child for treatment, at their first session, your psychologist will typically start the session with parent/s and child together and discuss (using age-appropriate language) the role of a psychologist, and cover issues such as privacy, confidentiality (and limits to this) as above.
Your psychologist will then discuss the reasons that have brought you and your child into therapy with you all. Your psychologist will then typically spend a portion of the session alone with your child to further discuss issues of concern and to explore your child’s interests, hobbies, likes and dislikes. Your psychologist will then provide some initial feedback to you (the parent). Subsequent consultations will typically follow a similar approach.